A few months ago, I joined a dating website called OKCupid. I used a variation of one of my nicknames, Cheerios, as my username. Since then, I've gotten my head screwed back on straight and had the sense to delete my account, but I pondered all the reasons it would never work for me.
I joined with the idea in my mind that hey, I'm 21 years old, I've never really had a boyfriend, and guys that I wanna date and who, in return, want to date me and only me aren't exactly popping up like daisies. I wanted a Someone. Still do, as a matter of fact, but I don't think I'm going to meet him on OKCupid. And "Why?" you ask?
First off, we've got The Judging Factor. You may be familiar with it. It's the same thing you do sometimes when you get a new Facebook friend. You scrutinize their profile, note the things you have in common with them, judge them for their pictures, grammar errors, and degree of emo-ness. But the difference between the Facebook friend and the Online Dating contact, is that, you're a bit more willing to forgive people that you've already met.
- "You say you like grammar, but I see a mistake here, here, and here." (Note: They pointed out my supposed "mistakes." They were wrong.)
- "Is that your hair in your picture or is it a wig?"
- "I love Cheerios, my favorite are the Apple Cinnamon Kind. I love eating Cheerios, but I especially love licking them."
- And my personal favorite: "I'm an exhibitionist and if it's not your thing, I understand, but would you mind watching me masturbate on webcam?"